A friend has brought to my attention how often in life the word "should" is used. I have taken notice and am surprised not only how often I hear it used, but how often I use it.
It seems that the word is used in reference to expectations placed on ourselves or others. In reality it's not my job to put should's on anyone. I have my view and opinion based on me, but it is only that, not a guide by which anyone is to think or act or be.
I take the "shoulds" of my life experience and the "shoulds" of my mind and the "shoulds" of people in my life and use them as guides to decide how I live my life, how I think and how I act. Wow! That is not God's plan and yet I let myself listen and be influenced by them. I have a responsibility to be what God intended for me to be, period. When I achieve and when I fail, I have the same responsibility.
When I look at others and put in my "shoulds" concerning how they "should" act, what they "should" say, where they "should" go, who their friends "should" be, what course they "should" take, I am not only being judgmental, but I am also limiting my influence and impact in their lives. By making a choice to put "shoulds" on myself or others I am in essence saying, I am in control and know what is best. This could not be farther from the truth, however often it's how we live our lives. The word of God tells me that my responsibility is to love
"Above all, love each other deeply (earnestly)" ~1 Peter 4:8
"So now I am giving you a new commandment: Love each other. Just as I have loved you, you should love each other." ~ John 13:34